I need help
Dear readers,
I need help. I was an only child. My mother was most accomplished, intelligent, successful woman. My father was jealous of her and started adultery. My mother was the gentle sensitive kind and couldnot face. Problems became big and my father became a brutal wife-beater. 3 years ago, my mother died because of brain haemmorhage. I was a shy girl ever. My relatives took me in. 3 months later I was married to a guy who was lesser than me in every way ( looks wise, education, maturity) and older than me by nearly 9 years. I have never felt any sort of love for him ever. Any vestigial feelings also evaporated once he started beating me.
The beating s have however come to a stop for now. I told my relatives about the beatings and they tell me I will not be able to survive if I come out of the marriage, specially since I have a 1 year old daughter. I realised they were worried I might depend on them, so maybe this reaction. But I am confused. I have literally no support, no job and have a baby daughter.
So please tell me what shall I do when my husband beats me up black and blue next time. This has been my worry every moment of my life.
To be honest my marriage is the most horrible thing, I have ever experienced. I want to divorce him some or the other time. But can someone give me good advice who has been through the same situation. Are there any NGOs, Working women hostels. Any information will be welcome.
Please help me with information. I will be forever grateful.
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PratimaAugust 25, 2010 at 6:03 am
Dear Readers,
I am 53yrs old and have been married for 22yrs.I have never had a happy life,and now things have become unbearable.I have a son who is doing engg in a hostel.My husband harrasses me so much that it is mental torture.He does not give me money to run the house.I have to beg for it litterally.He gives 200-500 and says ask again when it is over.It is very humiliating for me.Even to my son it is the same.He wants us to give him an account of every paisa spent.
He doesnt eat at home but ordersfrom outside and sits in front of me and eats.
I want to walk out now.I want toknow my Legal rights?Is he obliged to give me monthly money and a place to stay?
Please answermy queries soon
bharati hazareOctober 8, 2010 at 10:32 am
The above story resembles that of mine. Sincerely my marriage too is the most horrible thing, I have ever experienced. I want this domestic violence due heavy drinking to come to an end. Or else the husband should be asked to leave the house as I earn my bread and also the house is fully purchase by me. Every aftry after 2-3 months my husband drinks right from morning to night almost five bottles of low cost loquor every day and then me and my daughter face hell of a problem with all his shouting vominting beating with no sleep days together for both of us. Now my daughter is 14 this is oing on for last 15 years. I have tried all sources FIR in the police station, court but he is not afraid of anything instead he threatens me. Are there any NGOs . Any information will be welcome.
Please help me with information. I will be forever grateful.