It Takes Two: Blame It On The Alcohol
No one has actually ever told me WHY abusers are abusive. I only ever come across explanations that lean towards anger and temperament, but that doesn’t really make sense to me, I mean look at it from this point of view, a hard days work, your boss has been pestering you right from the minute you entered the office and as a result of that you’ve been fumbling everything up. You then get off work, get home to your gorgeous partner and beat the pulp out of her? Or do you seek solace instead? The latter sounds a bit more reasonable to me. You see it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that in order to solve a problem, you first need to realise that a problem actually exists, that’s step number one, step number two is figuring out the actual cause of the problem, after which you try come up with a solution and then endeavour to implement it, e.g. Barack Obama’s Stimulus Plan, the U.S. government has just literally taken over General Motors and Chrysler (trust a man to switch the topic to cars).
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The Centre for Disease Control (C.D.C.) approaches Domestic Violence in a slightly different manner vis a vis other organisations. Their analysis focuses more on behaviour change, especially in relation to substance abuse. I found this very intriguing, even though it obviously isn’t the only source cause of domestic violence. The C.D.C. attributes alcohol abuse, drug use and the intoxicating effects of other such substances as one main cause for domestic domestic violence. I think we’ve heard many a case where a spouse was a victim of violence from their drunken partner. Steps number one and two have been tackled, now comes the difficult part, which is figuring out a solution and implementing it. The most common modern solutions are obviously rehabilitation and detox, i.e. for the substance problems and thereafter just to be on the safe side, counselling and maybe even rehabilitation for the violence which might just be a seperate issue on it’s own, there’s certainly no room to leave a stone unturned.
Many of our actions as human beings are reactions to other outside forces. Our negative actions and or bad habits are normally reactions to a negative outer force, such as alcoholism or drug addiction. Thus if you can eradicate the negative outer forces, replacing them with positive ones, you’ll simultaneously be influencing positive reactions.
It’s one thing to simply open up a website and tell someone who is an actual victim of domestic violence that they ought to help their spouse reform, but looking into real life situations, analysing them, then offering relative solutions proves to be more effective. Thus I’m going to dedicate the next two articles to those couples out there whom together have decided to fight and permanently eradicate domestic violence in their lives, you don’t have to be a legion, there’s no need to call the cavalry, it just takes a sincere will to change, a sincere will to help one to change, all in all, It Takes Two.
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