It Takes Two: Mini Me
Aluta Continua, Latin for The Struggle Continues. For those of you new to our "It Takes Two" Column, we are dedicated to paving way for the inclusion of more men in the fight against domestic violence. The column strives to give advice to couples victim yet willing to reform and help each other reform, by advocating for abusers to seek help and society to open their doors and lend a helping hand, for that’s the only way in which domestic violence will actually be brought to a halt.
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Will & Jada Smith
Moving on, I was reading a comment posted by Carolyn on my last article "Blame It On The Alcohol" and what she had to say had me thinking, in almost each and every aspect of our day to day lives, we’re brought up believing the bigger, the better. Control and power is relative to size and stature, not of the brain, but of the body. And I think this plays relatively close to domestic violence in how Carolyn talked of raising future generations to view each other (men and women) as unequivocal equals. I’ve been involved in my fair share of fights through high school, can’t really be avoided if you attend an all boys Catholic institution. Anyway, even amongst ourselves as men, we tend to back off when the individual you’re to fight is slightly larger and if you don’t, believe me you usually learn your lesson. I assume people who resort to violence think along those lines, "I’m bigger and stronger, so no matter what I should be listened to."
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Shaquille and Shaunie O’Neal
I have to admit, I’m guilty as charged, guilty of the same offense. One of my workmates, Kritika Dey, is quite the small person, ok to be honest she’s a little more than just small and I’ve nicknamed her "Mini-Me". Not a day goes by where I don’t make a remark aimed at her stature and it’s small things (pun unintended) such as these that develop into a way of thinking that revolves around the "size = power" equation. It’s funny how a simple paradigm shift from this way of thought can lead to the end of not just house hold conflicts, but conflicts in general. If men and women, both genders, can start viewing each other as equals in all realms and raise their children espousing the same values and principles in their daily lives, our "It Takes Two" column could change the world and maybe earn Breakthrough a Nobel Peace Prize.
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Janet & JD
On a lighter note, some of my favourite couples are of extremely different statures and as of now I haven’t heard of any violent disputes between either of them. I guess it’s a simple matter of respect, not just for your partner, but moreso for yourself. I would never want to be viewed as the uneducated neanderthal that always resorts to violence and for the record, the high school fights were all self-defence, cross my heart and hope to die..
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