A child's plea
Hi.
My name is Aziz Buriwala. I am 12 years old and study at xxx and stay at xxx
My problem is that my father doesn’t allow me to go out and play with my friends, or as a matter of fact – doesn’t allow me to go out of the house for anything. I only go to school and come back and sit with him in his shoe shop.
He comes home late everynight drunk and beats my mother, my younger brother and me for no reason at all.
I am very scared of him.
Please somebody. Save me.
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Christina Lobo JhaJune 17, 2009 at 11:35 pm
Bachha here are some things you can do: Talk as often as necessary to trusted friends and family members. I am sure they also are noticing his behaviour. Keep talking. Don’t give up because a certain person doesn’t believe you, or because someone tells you that what you’re going through is “not that bad”. Go to the police or anyone else you need to if things get excessively out of control. Don’t give up until you have been heard. Form strong friendships and get involved in lots of activities. This will help get your mind off things and help you bear dealing with a bad parent. Try talking to your parent. If daddy does not listen don’t let it make u sad. Sometimes people just don’t get along. Find a way to get stay from your dad when hes in a bad mood. Ask understanding relatives or niehgbours if u, ur bro and mom and can sit in their homes for a little while. Can u and your brother get admission in a boarding school near by? Keep Ma and your Brother close to you and be their support. I know you are strong. Some Tips for you : Relax, spend some time alone, write out your feelings, Take a few deep breaths and when your calmed down talk to dad kindly… For example “Dad, I’m sorry. It makes me angry when you shout and beat me for no reason. It makes me feel like you don’t care about me. Don’t use bad words, and do say sorry even if you shouldn’t have to. Don’t give up. Don’t hurt yourself. It is not worth it. Don’t kill yourself, or your parents. Cry it helps. Save up some money. You will need it eventually. Ignore when possible, especially when your dad is in a bad mood. i’m sure you can judge when hes happy and when he’s angry. Do not blame yourself for what your dad is saying. When possible avoid parent. Stay in a different room, outside, or at a friend’s house. After all this Aziz Never show any form of disrespect to your dad, in public or private no matter how wrong he is! I hope things will get better for you Bachha and I dont why God gives us such parents. You can either let this make you strong or you can give up. I too faced emotional abuse and many years of staring at the ceiling asking questions…I grew up and I came out of it stronger and wanting to help others. why it happened well till today I cant make sense of it. You are already 12 and in a few years you will be a young man so also your bother. Both of you will be able to work and live separately with mom. Keep praying and we will also remember you in ours.
Christina Lobo JhaJune 17, 2009 at 11:44 pm
Please keep forgiving your dad. Remember that continuing to be angry at your dad is only going to hurt one person…YOU!