An ordinary women, who showed courage
Shikha was a beautiful girl of 27 years. She belonged to an educated family with embedded family values. Sourabh an MBA, a good student, working with an MNC and the only son was supposed to be her ideal match. They tied the knot and took the vows of marriage.
Shikha was a nurse by profession. The first time she gave into the demands of her new family was when she quit her job to become the “housewife”. Gradually her role started changing, she became the cook, the vent of all of her husband’s anger, reason of all the failures of her husband’s professional life and a never ending list of blames. To make things worse her marriage was not consummated. He kept on denying his medical problem and never visited a doctor.
She was in a dilemma, nobody wanted to bell the cat and support her emotionally and financially. She learnt her lessons of life and emerged out as a very strong person. After two years, she was on the verge of loosing her nursing registration; she made a hard choice, she chose in favour of her profession.
Now she is a full time nurse in a government hospital. She has created a niche of her own. She stays in her official residence, visits her parents seldom, having barely any ties with her husband and his family. Sourabh doesn’t want to divorce her–reason she is his “first love”. I don’t know when did the definition of love changed so much that I feel scared to even identify with it.
I have read biographies of women like Indira Gandhi and Sarojini Naidu, but for me Shikha’s courage to stand for her right is no less commendable. In a society where a girl does not have a choice or decision making powers on matters of all kinds, small to big, from what clothes to wear to who to talk, choice of life partner, profession etc, Shikha’s decision is a trend setter.
When it comes to making hard choices, the power of woman resurfaces. In spite of all odds, she comes out as the strongest and the most evolved one. If she can be the loving mother-Parvati she can also be the courageous destructor evil -Durga. Many thumbs up to woman hood.
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julietJanuary 13, 2010 at 1:31 am
This is beautiful. Yes we do emerge very strongly and it is this strength of which men are scared of because violent men are insecure and whimps they might look very handsome, sauve, smart and a charming personality mind you, but with a bloated head. Hats off to Shikha. Need more like her.
pialiJanuary 13, 2010 at 10:13 am
Yes, Juliet you are right. It is for sure the day women stand up for their rights men get nervous. So we should restructure the social conditions to the extent that women can raise their voices. It is a long way to go but I am happy that the spark is formed so we can hope that very soon it will spread like a fire.
KarthikaJanuary 15, 2010 at 5:52 am
True very true!
Shika took the right decision!
Economic independence is very important for woman!
That is what will give her respect, value and a position in society.
Woman’s destiny is never at the feet of her husband.
PialiJanuary 19, 2010 at 5:55 am
You are right, a women is the other wheel of the vechile called society. So without equal involvement of a woman the society cannot run properly. Then why is this discrimination. Can a car run with a punctured tyre? Then how can a society run with all the discrimination with woman.
You must be aware that in most of the organisations women are prefered over men due to their multitasking ability. Does a man ever feel guilty when he cannot give quality time to his family but a woman generally carry this guilt inspite of having a good job and being well placed. She tries to balance and at times even the ten hands cannot meet the demands.
This is what we are. Where is “my time”? Men should realise and honour this and not place women below their feet.