Comments on: Beaten up every now and then, even during chemotherapy – Somebody Ring the Bell http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/ Bring Domestic Violence to a Halt Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:09:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: najma http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-192 najma Mon, 01 Mar 2010 21:06:48 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-192 Dear friends....thanx a lot for being so supportive in my matter. @ dr.latha.....nop my husband is not a drunker,he is very religious person.Yes ,you are right doctor ,he has psychological problems for which i seek some solutions if you can help me please.... @swati,....thanx my friend for your emotional support. Here in abudhabi,actually ,the law is very supportive and favours the females.I was very weak ,till the team of BELLBAJAO pumped me with courage and made me strong. I really salute the abudhabi team of judiciary department and the police as well,for their immediate action.The court ordered to open his file as soon as gave the application to the public prosecutor,and he was immediately called by the head of the department. as soon as he entered the police station ,the inspector put the chains in his feet.and he was shocked . and then scolded and freed him after about 5 hours.and filed the case of domestic violence and got signed by him.infact as per court orders ,he was to be deported from abudhabi after imprisonment for 2 months.but on my request he was allowed to go home. we the women are very weak ,till we are inside the house. Just dont keep quiet...speak to every one close to you ..... In my case my ex_ student ,came forward ,to help me out. we need to spread the words among our wellwishers. Do not keep quiet,Be very strong and keep your savings and jewellery, either in the bank or with some trustworthy person . ALL THE BEST to Jaklyn, jyothikahanda and all other victims... long live BELL BAJAO . Dear friends….thanx a lot for being so supportive in my matter.
@ dr.latha…..nop my husband is not a drunker,he is very religious person.Yes ,you are right doctor ,he has psychological problems for which i seek some solutions if you can help me please….
@swati,….thanx my friend for your emotional support.

Here in abudhabi,actually ,the law is very supportive and favours the females.I was very weak ,till the team of BELLBAJAO pumped me with courage and made me strong.
I really salute the abudhabi team of judiciary department and the police as well,for their immediate action.The court ordered to open his file as soon as gave the application to the public prosecutor,and he was immediately called by the head of the department.
as soon as he entered the police station ,the inspector put the chains in his feet.and he was shocked .
and then scolded and freed him after about 5 hours.and filed the case of domestic violence and got signed by him.infact as per court orders ,he was to be deported from abudhabi after imprisonment for 2 months.but on my request he was allowed to go home.
we the women are very weak ,till we are inside the house.
Just dont keep quiet…speak to every one close to you …..
In my case my ex_ student ,came forward ,to help me out.
we need to spread the words among our wellwishers.
Do not keep quiet,Be very strong and keep your savings and jewellery, either in the bank or with some trustworthy person .
ALL THE BEST to Jaklyn, jyothikahanda and all other victims…
long live BELL BAJAO
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]]> By: Jacklyn Ikumu http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-191 Jacklyn Ikumu Sat, 27 Feb 2010 04:38:51 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-191 yes it is...some men take it as nothing when they beat up a woman. They have no heart or will apologise to a woman after the man beats her up.. I for one experience this all the time and I am sick and tired. are there any ways of helping to stop this continous beatings by husbands. Please reply as we have suffered too long with very aggressive men. yes it is…some men take it as nothing when they beat up a woman. They have no heart or will apologise to a woman after the man beats her up.. I for one experience this all the time and I am sick and tired. are there any ways of helping to stop this continous beatings by husbands.

Please reply as we have suffered too long with very aggressive men.

]]> By: Jacklyn Ikumu http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-190 Jacklyn Ikumu Sat, 27 Feb 2010 04:32:15 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-190 I am a lady who has been beaten up by my husband everytime we have a little arguement. I am sick and tired of this which he continously treat me disrespectfully infront of my family members and also infront of my inlaws..Please help me with the right information to stop him from treating me like a child but like his wife..All I want is to argue or solve a problem like husband and wife and not like a 7 year old child beaing beaten up by his dad...Please help me as it always affects my job and my relationship with my children.. Thank you and awaiting your kind response. Regards Jacklyn Ikumu I am a lady who has been beaten up by my husband everytime we have a little arguement. I am sick and tired of this which he continously treat me disrespectfully infront of my family members and also infront of my inlaws..Please help me with the right information to stop him from treating me like a child but like his wife..All I want is to argue or solve a problem like husband and wife and not like a 7 year old child beaing beaten up by his dad…Please help me as it always affects my job and my relationship with my children.. Thank you and awaiting your kind response.

Regards
Jacklyn Ikumu

]]> By: dr.Latha,k http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-189 dr.Latha,k Thu, 28 Jan 2010 04:42:44 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-189 Dear Najma, I am touched by your story.I am a mental health professional and do come across such incidents of wife abuse. Since you are educated i feel you should be more confident and fight it out. Severe abuse by spouses point that he might be suffering from some psychiatric illness where jealousy, suspiciousness might be predominant. Does he drink? If yes his behaviour may account for the same. How was his previous relationship? I strongly feel you should act now... since your health is also not too good .Try to gather strength and courage and with the support of your friends and relatives do something... I wish you all the best.God bless you Dear Najma,
I am touched by your story.I am a mental health professional and do come across such incidents of wife abuse. Since you are educated i feel you should be more confident and fight it out. Severe abuse by spouses point that he might be suffering from some psychiatric illness where jealousy, suspiciousness might be predominant. Does he drink? If yes his behaviour may account for the same. How was his previous relationship?
I strongly feel you should act now… since your health is also not too good .Try to gather strength and courage and with the support of your friends and relatives do something… I wish you all the best.God bless you

]]> By: jyotikahanda http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-188 jyotikahanda Wed, 27 Jan 2010 15:21:07 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-188 dear Nazma Deeply touched by your story bt nt at all surprised .It happens ,that we females are victimized all the time directly or indirectly.We are always the ones who could not dare to be out of our own ,self made prisons due to all the fears of insecurity,society and future.I am also sailing in the same boat ,though not beaten but yes living with a husband who is not earning since last 16 yrs and is living like a king with me,enjoying my salary,me and all the household comforts that i give to him unwillingly because of the society norms and my family.Even i want to be out of this web but find me helpless .But Nazma if you get even a smallest ray of hope ,do come out of it before it is too late .Leave him ,leave him .............n start a new life jyotika dear Nazma

Deeply touched by your story bt nt at all surprised .It happens ,that we females are victimized all the time directly or indirectly.We are always the ones who could not dare to be out of our own ,self made prisons due to all the fears of insecurity,society and future.I am also sailing in the same boat ,though not beaten but yes living with a husband who is not earning since last 16 yrs and is living like a king with me,enjoying my salary,me and all the household comforts that i give to him unwillingly because of the society norms and my family.Even i want to be out of this web but find me helpless .But Nazma if you get even a smallest ray of hope ,do come out of it before it is too late .Leave him ,leave him ………….n start a new life

jyotika

]]> By: A.G. http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-187 A.G. Wed, 13 Jan 2010 12:08:59 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-187 Dear, Najma! Your story has touched me. You are very patient woman. And I dare to think, that you sincerely trusted that your husband will change ( once, twice, etc etc). Now you understand, that it is impossible. Also it is impossible this violence more. Let your force, your mind and resoluteness to make yourself free. Unfortunately, I have no contacts in Abu-Dhabi and lawyers who could help you. But I am assured, that the basic decision in You, Najma. Do not let yourself to forgive your husband. Basically, it was your husband Never. The creating female nature is extremely patient and all forgiving too. Forgive yourself, dear Najma, and leave from this monster. With love and sincerity, A.G. (from Russia) Dear, Najma!
Your story has touched me.
You are very patient woman.
And I dare to think, that you sincerely trusted that your husband will change ( once, twice, etc etc).
Now you understand, that it is impossible.
Also it is impossible this violence more.
Let your force, your mind and resoluteness to make yourself free.
Unfortunately, I have no contacts in Abu-Dhabi and lawyers who could help you.
But I am assured, that the basic decision in You, Najma.
Do not let yourself to forgive your husband.
Basically, it was your husband Never.
The creating female nature is extremely patient and all forgiving too.
Forgive yourself, dear Najma, and leave from this monster.

With love and sincerity,
A.G. (from Russia)

]]> By: Sandy http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-186 Sandy Wed, 13 Jan 2010 11:45:57 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-186 Just get back to India and leave, disappear and get a new identity for yourself - it's a last resort, better than being humiliated like this. There is no way he will ever change. have faith in urself alone and move. If you have gone thru so much and have no legal recourse that protects you or gets you a divorce, girl you are better off without either of them. Easier said than done you would say. It is possible is all I will say. Rest is your call. Nobody but you can make this choice for u. Just get back to India and leave, disappear and get a new identity for yourself – it’s a last resort, better than being humiliated like this. There is no way he will ever change. have faith in urself alone and move. If you have gone thru so much and have no legal recourse that protects you or gets you a divorce, girl you are better off without either of them. Easier said than done you would say. It is possible is all I will say. Rest is your call. Nobody but you can make this choice for u.

]]> By: Fred http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-185 Fred Wed, 13 Jan 2010 10:58:04 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-185 Only low life guttless cowards hit woman. [Some text edited for being racial and violent] Only low life guttless cowards hit woman. [Some text edited for being racial and violent]

]]> By: juliet http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-184 juliet Wed, 13 Jan 2010 01:07:51 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-184 Dear Najma - C a gud lawyer immediately/ find out yr legal rights. Follow the advise. Do not be scared in fact it is high time you got him locked up permanently. If he can beat u mercilesseley why shld u take pity on him. Don't know how the laws work in Abu Dhabi a good Kazi will also guide. This man is not worth living with. These category is extremely insecure, in yr case he is fed up and looking for a new woman ( must hve found till now) hence the divorce. Do you have kids? There are lots of women's rights but we do not use it properly we are scared of the society ostracising us & men take advantage of this. Do not move out frm yr house - women under domestic violence act 2005 in India can seek protection/ another reisdence to stay safely + more benefits but u will hve to go for it legally. Divorce is a better option + alumny (muslims hve the meher) than to get beaten up. Good luck. U can write to me anytime. Dear Najma – C a gud lawyer immediately/ find out yr legal rights. Follow the advise. Do not be scared in fact it is high time you got him locked up permanently. If he can beat u mercilesseley why shld u take pity on him. Don’t know how the laws work in Abu Dhabi a good Kazi will also guide. This man is not worth living with. These category is extremely insecure, in yr case he is fed up and looking for a new woman ( must hve found till now) hence the divorce. Do you have kids? There are lots of women’s rights but we do not use it properly we are scared of the society ostracising us & men take advantage of this. Do not move out frm yr house – women under domestic violence act 2005 in India can seek protection/ another reisdence to stay safely + more benefits but u will hve to go for it legally. Divorce is a better option + alumny (muslims hve the meher) than to get beaten up. Good luck. U can write to me anytime.

]]> By: Steve http://www.bellbajao.org/2010/01/12/beaten-up-every-now-and-then-even-during-chemotherapy-somebody-ring-the-bell/#comment-183 Steve Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:28:44 +0000 http://bellbajao.org/?p=1365#comment-183 It's very sad... is wife-beating like an addiction for these men? :O Shouldn't you publish the name and address of this poor woman to avert a tragedy? :x It’s very sad… is wife-beating like an addiction for these men? :O
Shouldn’t you publish the name and address of this poor woman to avert a tragedy? :x

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