Bell Bajao Doodh - English
Got Milk?
Asking for a small cup of milk is one of the many things you can do to bring domestic violence to a halt.
Rural Window: Compassion conquers all
How many of us actually deal in the human business? Do we really look out for each other? Do we ever stop and take notice of people around us?
Here's a story of someone who actually stopped in his tracks and went out of his way to help someone in need. Take a minute to read this true story.
as an austrian being based in india i see and hear about a lot of violence against women. as an expat in this country it is even harder to interfere in any matters simply because locals say: "this is not your country and this is not your business." but indian people are generally warm hearted people who will have a hard time saying "no" if you ask them for milk:) fantastic idea!
Hunh. What a great idea!
I could do this!
While the idea sounds good, it has a serious drawback. In a situation of domestic violence, if a man goes and rings and asks for an unnecessary thing like milk it may lead to more querral and more violence. First thing could be why that man came, do you have any relationship with him and wife becomes answerable. These are theoretically good ideas nut put them to a pratical test and you would know that reality is uglier than imagined.
i share archana's skepticism about the way the husband is going to react..but yeah such an idea can work if people are really interested in saving their poor neighbour from an occasional thrashing..once in a while.. but the fact remains that as long as indian men don't learn to respect women for what they are, this will continue...and we all know how much an average indian man respects women...but anyways,its a start.
Also I thought that the setting selected may be stereotypical in the sense that there is this huge misconception that this happens only amongst a certain class of people. Any thoughts?
Though I think a lot of the appeal lies not in the practicality of the idea but the fundamental point of getting people involved and making them feel that they CAN actually do something about it. Often people think it to be a 'private' matter and decide to not intervene. So the idea that YOU can intervene to resolve a larger social issue is the beauty of it all.
GREAT...
going on lines that archana indicated, the idea should also be more than 'stopping the violence' by one excuse or the other. it is of course important, and many parrallel tracks are needed to adress the issue, but our mental excersise should take a step further than just postponing something by misplacing the reason. I also think that the best way to enage with it directly and in a manner which can be sustained: is to start with ones own home, and ones own family. Becoz there apart from postpoing we can really rasie a Voice, against this crime and infringement on someones right. And my experience tells me that one that is difficult and second only that can further guide me to a useful and stronger action.
It will really help to reduce the domestic violence with women.
This is really good, finally the society has understood what it means to be abused in a violent marriage, unlike all those years, when it was considered a done thing, and that the husband had a right to beat a wife. I am so happy that finally women in domestic violence are beginning to see the light of day...towards freedom.
This is a very temporary solution. Yet it sends out a clear message that somebody near is listening and cares. That itself may prove to be a deterrent in mild cases. In other cases of abuse, stronger intervention is necessary.
i really really like this idea...bell bajao even i m doing here in pakistan as well...fanstastic i think its really work!!!!!!
This is a great start. But after "asking for milk", we should not just disappear, or we have just gone half way to end violence against women.